Weddings are a big event

Weddings are a big event to plan no doubt. But I have realized through the planning of my friend’s wedding this year how neurotic we all are in the midst of the planning. Looking back I realize how one track minded you get. The whole world is revolving around this wedding. Every extra minute you have is devoted to picking <i>something </i>out or making some type of appointment. I was in college full-time and working part-time. I can remember sneaking to the rental place to meet my mom between two classes. My grades proved how busy I was. Looking back, I would have definitely lightened up on several aspects. Not so much lightened up because it did take a lot to plan but I really regret not including my in-laws in a lot of the planning. I realize looking back now that MIL was probably dying to find out what was going on but didn’t want to butt in. I feel bad for that. And I really feel bad for making my bridesmaids wear shoes that were not comfortable for a lot of them. Of course, some of them did rebel and wear their own shoes, which is a whole other story, but still. I think really you become so in love with the wedding instead of focusing on what is going to happen. Little decisions become huge ones. Spats become fights. And to be completely honest, it’s all for what?? 40 minutes? I’m not saying I regret putting so much effort into the wedding. We had a good sized wedding and I loved every minute of it. I’m just saying I’m realizing what a freak I was when I was planning it.