Alrighty, so we bought a house! We ended up offering, she counter-offered and we counter-offered back, settling at $100 above offering price + 3K in closing. We were happy with that. Looks like we won’t need to spend more than $100-200 extra in closing above our down payment. We are really excited about it and have already started making a to-do list of what we want to do. Just some cosmetic things mostly. We are set to close either 6/25 or 6/28. Less than a month away!! I can’t wait! We still don’t have finaly approval on our transfer, but according to Corporal’s instructions, we should rely on Fst. Sgt.’s original comment that we should plan on being in Fort Mill on June 30. So that’s what we’re doing.
I finally made a comment to my good friend whose wedding I’m in and who I am helping throw our other friend an engagement party. I had agreed at first to split half of food and a keg for the party. After I told Scott, he was none too happy about spending our already thin money on something we don’t even drink and something we don’t think anyone else needs to drink. I know we are in the minority, but that’s just the way it is. Anyway, so in some conversations about the party in email, I finally spit it out that I’m not too happy about having to split the cost of the keg but I was willing to do it since I said I would. She wrote back simply that her and her fiance would buy the keg and we could split the cost of the food. I just put ‘ok’ back in my email. I feel REALLY crappy about what I said even though it was the truth. I think if I had told her from the beginning that I didn’t want to help for the keg that I would have been fine with it. Now I just feel like I’ve insulted her, gone back on my word and look like a cheapskate. It’s a crappy place to be. She hasn’t emailed me a thing since. I can’t decide if she is truly insulted or just doesn’t have anything else to say to me now. It is quite an awkward time for things to be weird between us. The engagement party is in two weeks and it’s supposed to be a fun time. And then I’m supposed to be in HER wedding in September. I actually do remember my relationships with some of my friends being quite strained the closer it got to our wedding. I guess it’s just a stressful time. Our other, other friend and I talked a little bit about this friend that I’ve been talking about and we talked a lot about how different she is. I’m not saying this about all unmarried, childless people, BUT she is very immature in some ways still. Very selfish in her thinking and has no idea what it is like to be a wife and a mother or either has no regard for those that do. I just feel like we’re living different lives now. Not much in common anymore. I mean, on the surface, we get along. Our goals are just different now and that’s ok. Really. It’s just she’s got to be able to understand my life is a little more complicated and she just DOESN’T see that. I know I’m talking in circles but I just need a little frustration out about this.
Jaynee says
Congrats on the house and the impending move! I know you and emailed briefly about Fort Mill, and unless something changes drastically in the next five years, it looks like we won’t be moving to Fort Mill in our future. But you never know! Good luck to you in the meantime!